It’s been a loooong time since I posted but, in support of the many folks I know that recently embarked on their natural hair journey, I’m dusting off my keyboard and gettin down to business! Unfortunately, most of these folks seem to be stuck in common pitfalls or are frustrated by the very things I wish I would have known in the beginning. With that said, I’ll keep my intro fairly short and jump right into the eight “steps” I think are critical to achieving peace on the journey to healthy natural hair:
1. Be patient! Let me say that again, BE PATIENT! For many of us, we lived for years with hair that was relaxed, weaved or styled in a way that never even allowed us to know what our natural hair looked or felt like, let alone called for us to properly care for it. But, for many of us, just a few days into our transition or after our BC and we’re expecting our hair to do every trick under the sun. Slow down, take it one day at a time and know that hair is no different from us – it needs time to adjust to change.
2. Know yourself! And I mean really KNOW yourself and why you made the transition to natural hair. Being able to stay focused on your reason for being a natural beauty is key for those days when you feel challenged by your hair or one of those times when somebody makes some sideways comment about your hair. Hopefully those experiences will be few and far between but, if/when they do occur, it makes it a lot easier to keep it pushin if you can fall back on your original purpose.
3. Give yourself permission to make mistakes! You will make less than optimal choices for your hair, you’ll have a style that doesn’t come out right and you will get frustrated but just know that each day is an opportunity to learn something about yourself and your hair.
4. Keep it simple! Don’t over complicate things! Unfortunately, over the past 2-3 years, I’ve noticed more and more people thinking that it’s admirable or necessary to spend HOURS or even a whole day taking care of their natural hair. It also seems that people think the more products you use on one head the “healthier” the hair will be…NOT! Just keep it simple, simple, simple! If you want to know what “simple” looks like, check out this post by The Mane Source!
5. Don’t allow your hair inspirations to become your hair Gods! We ALL have vloggers, bloggers and the like that inspire us to do great things with our hair but, in the end, getting to know what grows from our own heads and how to nurture it is what’s important! Take the advice from others and use it to your advantage but understand that what worked for that person may not work for you and, sadly, every piece of advice out there isn’t always good. Research and common sense will always be great companions to the tips you receive from others.
6. Know your products! Never, ever, ever put something on your hair or scalp without knowing the ingredients and what they do! Again, just like every bit of advice isn’t good, every “natural” product isn’t made with the love and care that some would like you to think. Some products contain harmful chemicals, pore clogging ingredients and all sorts of things will NOT help you achieve healthy hair. If you ever have questions about an ingredient, you can always go to EWG’s Skin Deep Cosmetic Database for details.
7. Don’t feel pressured to break the bank! Healthy hair care does NOT require going into debt! There are definitely products on the market worth spending money on but, for the most part, with a little research, time and effort, a trip to the kitchen or the grocery store will provide just what your hair needs. However, if you would rather support the natural hair community by purchasing products from someone else, make sure you’re getting what you pay for and, don’t forget, do your research!
8. Learn to love the person in the mirror! Once you truly accept and love yourself for who you are, bad hair days and frustrations will roll off your back instead of taking root or getting you off track.
Until next time…Peace and Blessings!
